‘A good death is an extraordinary, moving and sacred experience. It can also have a healing quality, not only for the person who is involved but their families, friends and the wider community.’
- Felicity Warner, Gentle Dying
What is Soul Midwifery?
From early diagnosis to bedside vigils, a Soul Midwife offers to support holistically a dying friend. Soul Midwifery works as part an integrative approach to palliative and end of life care and aims to bridge the healthcare of the individual with death care.
The Soul Midwife’s most important role is to provide comfort, continuous support and reassurance in helping a dying person to experience the death he or she wants.
Soul midwives lovingly assist and accompany a dying person on their journey, and can provide their services within a home, hospital or hospice.
We are comfortable with talking about death and will offer you the space and time to talk about your own mortality.
Principles of a Soul Midwife
To work as non-medical holistic companions who guide and support a dying person in order to facilitate a gentle and tranquil death.
To support and recognise the individual needs of the dying person and ensure they feel loved and supported.
To create and hold a sacred and healing space for the dying person (whether in a hospital, a hospice or at home).
To respect and honour a dying person’s religious/spiritual or atheist/agnostic beliefs and practices.
To work as non-denominational, multi-faith practitioners who honour the dying person’s beliefs about life, death or the afterlife.
To listen, provide gentle therapeutic techniques, and ensure compassionate care at all times.
To ‘serve’ our friend; not aim to ‘fix’ or ‘rescue’.
To give healing, using sound, touch, colour, scented oils or other gentle techniques to alleviate pain and anxiety.
To keep a loving vigil.
To work holistically with the spirit and soul of our friends at all levels and stages of transition.
To support families and their loved ones, giving loving care with a human touch
To provide comfort, continuous support and reassurance in helping a dying person to experience the death he or she wants.
I trained as a Soul Midwife Practitioner with Felicity Warner and her school in 2015. During the same year, I was offered to be part of a pilot project run by Marie Curie UK. facilitating end of life companionship at one of our acute hospitals in Somerset. Since then I have been supporting individuals in this setting who may die alone or have little company in busy wards. Some may have family present but they can often feel overwhelmed and isolated themselves. I provide with emotional and practical support and advocacy to patients who are dying as well as families whilst being cared at the hospital. I trained at Advance Level in Soul Midwifery during the same year after completing my case studies and then decided to train as facilitator in TLC for End of Life Care training course. I have received additional training in end of life care run by Marie Curie in partnership with Somerset NHS Trust. Prior to this training, I attended training courses in Spiritual Care run by Rigpa UK which offered practical ways in which the wisdom and compassion of the Buddhist teachings can benefit those facing illness or death and help support their families and care givers. I have also worked as a Ward Volunteer at Trinity Hospice in London where I also had the opportunity to receive additional training in palliative care, managing emotions and end of life care.
This journey and preparation came from witnessing bad deaths in my life and wishing that the process of dying could have been honoured in a different way. It also comes from a place of self-enquiry as there is very little education about death and dying in our society and how we could possibly prepare us for a "good" death.
If you feel you would like to explore this with me, you can contact me to arrange a first time meeting and discuss your personal needs and circumstances for requiring this service.
For how long?
As long you and your family need me.
How much will it cost?
This will be discussed on the day of our first meeting.
Support with Advance Care Planning.
Support with your end of life wishes.
Support with funeral planning.
Gentle holistic therapies to support you with wellbeing and relaxation such as Reiki and soft tissue massage.
Therapeutic art sessions to support your mind and spirit,
Support with end of life projects.
Support and advice with rehoming your pet.
Emotional support and companionship with euthanising pets..
Pet burial and funeral.
Pet bereavement support.